Friday 6 July 2012

ABUSE!

A sensitive area, however as carers we are told to always be on the look out for any sign of abuse within a visit. This could be physical, emotional, financial, verbal, discrimination,self harm,eating, drink,drugs, the list goes on. However, what about the carer being abused?

Sadly it does occur, and once again a situation where as a carer you find yourself making excuses for the abuser because of the situation they are in and  having to cope with it.They are probably angry, annoyed at abilities which have been reduced and basic frustration.However, they do require help and if you have been abused you require support too.

Quite simply it is not acceptable. To be cornered in a  kitchen with all sorts of utensils to hand to the abuser and no way of the service user being reasonably talked out of it, is a scary situation to be in. In this scenario, visits became a double up and as should be the case the carer was withdrawn from visiting.

The ongoing effects can run quite deep.Support, as with most things is offered by the crate load at the time because its 'all new' but what happens a couple of months down the line and you realise you would benefit from some help now?

It is out there.You are NOT alone and it is quite natural for it to take a while to come to the surface.

Should you feel you are in that situation now, please feel strong enough to get in touch with  the Carers Coffee Pot. All messages recieved are viewed personally before being published so it won't go on the blog if you don't want it too, just make sure you say so.

Alternatively, if you want a reply you can always email to carerscoffeepot@gmail.com and I can reply to you as soon as I can.

You are important to the CarersCoffee Pot, and your wellbeing is important to you.



If you have a few minutes, take a look at this article.....You really are not alone.
 http://suite101.com/article/caregiver-abuse-by-an-elderly-spouse-or-parent-a215050


1 comment:

  1. Wow, the comments on the attached article make interesting reading. It shows just how vulnerable the carers are.

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